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  Power Communication

  Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 2

  by Drawk Kwast

  Drawk Kwast | The Alpha Male Advantage

  Reality is a crutch for those lacking enthusiasm and imagination.

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  The authors and Drawk Kwast Holdings, LLC assume no responsibility for any injuries, damages, or losses incurred as a result of taking any action based on the information presented in this book. By reading beyond this point, you represent that you are at least 18 years old and assume full responsibility for all consequences of your own actions.

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  Contents

  Introduction

  First Things First

  How to Read This Book

  Part One: Linguistics

  Weak Words for Lazy Minds

  Negative Statements

  Try

  Why

  Soon

  Should and Could

  Hope

  Can and May

  What

  But

  Emphasis - Last Thing Said

  Modal Operator Statements

  Presuppositions

  Final Thoughts

  Part Two: Paralinguistics

  Record Yourself

  Speed

  Filler Words

  Pronunciation

  Emphasis

  Pitch

  Variation

  Projection

  Learn to Sing

  Part Three: The Art of Physical Space

  Environment

  Respect

  Being Neutral

  Desensitization

  Motivation for Unnecessary Movement

  Diet and Exercise

  It's What's on the Inside That Counts

  Clothing and Grooming

  Style and Fashion

  Taking and Marking Space

  Touching

  Toward and Away Body Language

  Dynamics

  Looking Comfortable from Being Comfortable

  Mastery

  Part Four: Eye Contact

  Learned Through Martial Arts

  Blinking

  Pupil Dilation and Emotion

  Forcing Pupil Dilation

  Bright Eyes and Dark Eyes

  Communicating Expectations

  Part Five: Questions vs. Statements

  Defense Default

  Familiarity

  Invitation or Invasion

  Seeding Questions with Statements

  How to Guess Correctly

  Part Six: Limited Sensory Communication

  Failure Is a Process

  Limited Senses

  Lack of One Sense Builds the Others Stronger

  Time Can Change Everything

  The Telephone

  Email and Text Messages

  Science Not Sexism

  Women and the Power of Acknowledgment

  How to Get a Cute Girl's Phone Number

  Calling Attractive Women

  Practice

  Remembering Your Goals

  Part Seven: Humor

  All She Wants Is a Guy Who Can Make Her Laugh?

  Always Laugh at the Boss's Jokes

  What Did This All Mean?

  Laughing with Someone

  Laughing at Someone

  Playful Teasing

  Topics Never to Joke About

  Laughing at Your Own Jokes

  Self-Deprecating Humor

  What's Funny?

  Part Eight: Congruency

  The Function of Doubt

  Triune Brain Model

  Emotion and Memory

  Anchoring

  Superstitions and Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

  Socially Learned Behaviors

  Pain as Pleasure and Pleasure as Pain

  Intermission Time

  Time Doesn't Exist

  The Map Is Not the Territory

  Time Heals All Wounds

  Perception = Reality

  The Perception of Existence

  Acceptance

  How to Program the Human Brain

  Replace Not Delete

  Shifting Emotional State

  Emotions Are Contagious

  The Empty Field

  Congruency Tests

  The Ideal Self

  Rock Star Dracula

  Choose Your Adventure

  What to Do Next

  Acknowledgments

  Introduction

  You and I are known by many names: rebel, heathen, and seducer, to name a few. Why do they call us these names? At some point, we found the box that society wanted us to live in very uncomfortable, so we abandoned it. At this point, most of us don't even remember what the inside of that box looked like, but we remember how painful it was, and we know we're never going back. They told us that life outside of the box would be difficult, yet we flourished. They continue to call us irresponsible, reckless, and unprofessional as we enjoy a life of money, women, and power far beyond their reach. We may live by a forbidden code, but ours is a group for which membership is open to anyone with the balls to join and brains to thrive. As I write this, I assume that you are already one of us. If you are not, this book may be your only chance to join us.

  What you hold in front of you right now contains the secrets we use to communicate our ideas in such a powerful way that it changes the reality of how much money we earn, who we date, and what we have influence over. You are about to embark on a journey beginning with the simplest core concepts and leading to an understanding of the very nature of reality itself.

  First Things First

  If you worked your way through my first book, Domination Basics: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 1, you already know that this second book is about to make everything else on your bookshelf look like Dr. Seuss. This second book is built on the important and very necessary foundation of Domination Basics. Without understanding the basics, you're not equipped to handle what's inside this book. I want you to get the maximum value out of what I've written and receive the rewards for following these instructions. To do that, you must first read: Domination Basics: Secrets of the Alpha Male Book 1.

  How to Read This Book

  This book is organized into eight parts. Your first instinct will be to read it cover to cover, but realize that no one can digest and integrate this material into their lives that fast. This book was written to be read one part at a time, with one week between each part to put what you have read into practice. Remember to take notes and use a highlighter as you work through each part, building a clear plan of how to apply and use each week's lessons. This book wasn't written to be read. It was written to be done. Wise men recognize that the wisdom comes from doing, not simply from reading. Do every task, and practice, practice, practice. Different people will get slightly different things out of this book, based on the experiences it leads them through. This is your adventure for the next eight weeks and, if you do it correctly, for the rest of your life. Live it well.

  Power Communication Part 1

  Linguistics

  Week 1

  When we communicate, it all starts with our thoughts. When we choose to speak, we have a mechanism in our brain that references the library of words in our head and decides what words will best convey the thought. If the thought i
s weak, the mechanism by default chooses weak words. If the thought is strong, the mechanism by default chooses strong words. Communicating with power requires the use of strong words, and strong words require strong thoughts. We build strong thoughts by using strong word choices, both for conversation with others and for conversations with ourselves (better known as thinking). This may seem like circular logic, but in fact this is the cornerstone for linear thinking. Your thoughts and words function in a symbiotic relationship. Think of it as linguistic algebra. Whatever happens on one side of the equation must be balanced on the other side.

  Consider the following sentence:

  I wrote a book. Some people said it was alright, so basically I figured I'd try writing a second book.

  Compare that to this:

  People frequently comment on the clarity and insight of my first book. I felt led by my readers to write a second book.

  Now if I were asking you to buy a presale copy of this book, which example of word choice would better serve my purpose? The answer is obvious.

  Part one of this book covers the art and science of word choice. As you become a master of this, you will shape your communication in a way that displays power and confidence, increasing your ability to persuade others. You will also be able to decode the word choice of other people and have a deeper glimpse into their thoughts. After some practice, you will make an additional discovery: the link between word choice and thought is a two-way street. A person who masters word choice will also master his unconscious thought. A person who has mastered his own unconscious thought can then learn to influence the unconscious thoughts of others, most of the time without others even being aware of it.

  Weak Words for Lazy Minds

  There is a list of words that people use as a way to avoid committing to their own ideas. Weak language is a reflection of a person's lack of confidence in his own ideas. It's OK to be wrong on occasion. It is not OK to be generally unsure of yourself. There are times when these words are a necessary and normal part of speech, such as when you are talking about other people who are always uncertain of themselves. In general, however, you can omit these words from your speech. Some examples of these words are usually, probably, most likely, often, basically, and typically. Consider the difference between the following statement and the effect it would have on a new client:

  Basically, I do good work. My clients are usually happy with the results I produce.

  Compare that to this:

  I do good work. My clients are happy with the results I produce.

  Considering the first example, how comfortable would you feel if this statement were coming from your neurosurgeon right before your operation? In these examples, you can see the effect weak language has on your perception of the doctor's abilities. His self-doubt is blatantly obvious.

  Negative Statements

  Another type of weak language is negative statements. It takes a bit of explanation on how the brain works to understand this concept. The unconscious brain cannot understand negatives. Negatives can be processed only by your conscious brain. Here's a simple example. If I tell you to stop thinking about a pink elephant, what do you start thinking about? A pink elephant. How does this happen? When I say, "Don't think of a pink elephant," your conscious passes the pink elephant part to your unconscious. Your unconscious passes an image of a pink elephant back to your conscious, and your conscious says, "OK, don't think about that." If we are at the circus and I don't want you to think about elephants, it's much more effective to just say, "Hey, look at the clown." Here are some further examples of negative statements and how to correct them:

  I don't want to go to McDonald's for dinner.

  I can't believe how you are behaving.

  Change to:

  I would rather go to Sizzler for dinner.

  I had more respect for you five minutes ago.

  Try

  The word try is implied failure. Has someone ever said something like the following to you? "I tried my best and won first place." No, he just tells you that he won. Yoda was right when he said, "Do or do not; there is no try." To illustrate this further, let's do the following experiment:

  Try to pick both of your feet up off of the floor.

  How did you do? Did you try? It's impossible. You either did or did not pick your feet up off of the floor. Do not use the word try in any reference to yourself. If you are uncertain of the outcome, simply talk about your next step.

  Do not let other people use the word try with you when working toward a common goal. If others use the word try with you, they are unconsciously telling you that they intend to fail. Don't let them get away with that. Have them rephrase the statement using different words, and your chance of success goes up.

  One of the more interesting things you can do with try is to use it to take power out of other people's statements. For example:

  They say: I am going to become an astronaut after college.

  You say: You can try.

  In this case, using the word try is like peeing on their campfire. It ruins their campfire, and the smell is awful. Remember that try kills statements by infecting them with doubt.

  Why

  The use of why in your life is now completely prohibited (unless you use it as part of a joke). Some of the people I work with have a running joke about the word why. If one of us spills a drink, that person will exclaim in the whiniest voice possible, "Whhhhyyyyyyyyy?" This is our way of making fun of the people who still use this word. I can hear you asking, "But why can't I use why?"

  The problem with the word why is that it has no personal power. A man loses his job and spends hours crying to his friend, using an overdose of the word why. A woman finds out her husband has been cheating on her and uses the word why an obscene number of times between the massive crying sessions. Why usually has no other point than whining. Replace the word why with how and you regain power and find resolution. How covers the series of events leading up to the problem. At the very least, you can learn from that. The man lost his job because he always came in 15 minutes late. That is how it happened. The husband cheated on the wife because she put on 45 pounds since their wedding, and that is how that happened. Mystery solved, conversation over, next question please. Anything that moves you to logically answer your how question with a because gives you the power to learn from it and move on. Don't let people use why with you anymore. Tell them that you no longer understand it, and ask them to use the word how.

  Soon

  From the movie Spaceballs (1987):

  Question: When will then be now?

  Answer: Soon!

  The word soon doesn't actually tell you anything. In most cases, when someone uses the word soon as a response, he may have just as well said, "Shut up!" Push people for a real answer.

  A man asks the office's secretary if she can have his contracts completed and ready for submission by the end of the day. She replies by saying that she will try to have it done soon. When people put try and soon in the same sentence, your response must be the same as if they just told you that you should set your wallet on fire and hope for the best. The man instructs the secretary to make the same statement without use of try and soon. The secretary responds with a schedule of events. She explains that there are four contracts in front of his and that if they take an average amount of time to complete, his will get done. The man has accomplished two things because tractable expectations have been set. First, he can make an educated guess on the likelihood of this getting done. Second, he has increased the likelihood of this getting done because he has limited the stalling points. If any reason other than the one she gave prevents the work from being done, she will have some explaining to do.

  Should and Could

  The word should implies the presence of a negative or questionable thought. When used in the past tense, the implication is that you have not figured out what went wrong and thus you have not yet learned anything, so you have some research to do. When the word should is
used before executing a plan, people perceive that you are unsure. If people tell you that you "should" do something, ask them the details of how they arrived at that conclusion. Here are some examples:

  That should have worked. vs. That did not work; let's do this.

  That should work. vs. That has an 87% chance of working.